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I see that it is that time again where a lot of people complaining about their parents and blaming them for the fact that they were born poor. This is absolutely not something that is acceptable. Your parents did the best that they could for you and being an entitles brat is an insult for all the hardwork and suffering they went through to ensure you had a good life. You usually see this around the holiday season where ungrateful brats are complaining about their parents not gifting them with expensive things. I saw the below image the other day and it really resonated with me, it is such an awesome sentiment and I wish more people thought this way:

My father is not the reason why I was born poor. He is the reason I’m going to die rich

If you are blaming your parents for not keeping you in the level of luxury that you feel you deserve, nothing is stopping you from getting a job and earning the money yourselves. The parents are not there to pamper you for your whole life. You want a better car/house/phone etc work for it. No one is stopping you. Interestingly this behavior is not there in the really poor people (at least not that I saw) but more in the middle class households.

It is not always the kids fault either, there are parents who don’t teach their kids the value of money and explain the struggle they go through to keep the house running. Those are the kids who are usually complaining about not having enough money to show-off because they never realize how hard their parents work to make it. I have a friend who’s doing well but has a lot of expenses and things are tight at home but their kid is least bothered about it because he likes showing off and splurges a lot. In contrast I have another friend who’s daughter is the other extreme of the spectrum, she is working double internships so that she can help support the house as she wanted to help her mother.

The below image perfectly captures what parents sacrifice to ensure their kids had a good life.

It really pisses me off when I hear these folks abuse their parents for not having enough money to pamper / support in the luxury they feel they deserve.

– Suramya

#parenting #thoughts

This person thinks that they have a great interview process designed to get them great candidates but each step is a massive red flag.

They are basically telling us that they don’t care about the candidate’s life or existing commitments, such companies will expect you to be in office or working from home 24/7 for no good reason other than it is expected. From personal experience I have seen that such companies don’t hire enough resources because they expect the work of 10 to be done by 5 people as they are putting in double the hours.

Putting in a ton of hours for a deadline or in an emergency is fine and you should absolutely be willing to do so when required. However, that shouldn’t become a standard thing that you are consistently putting in insane hours. It is not sustainable and can cause serious health issues and burnout. It is not cool and it doesn’t show commitment if you are in the office constantly.

It is better to step away for a while when stuck on a problem. To give an example, I was trying to get some data from a system at work yesterday and spent a few hours trying to get my program to work but it just refused to work. So I decided to take a break and after a good nights sleep again looked at the code, within 15 minutes I figured out the problem and got the program working.

I tend to be on the workaholic side and can get caught up in work to the point where I don’t realize that I have been working for hours without a break. This is not a healthy habit and I have had some great managers who would scold me for being up late night when I didn’t need to. In one of my previous companies we actually implemented a policy in our team to counter this habit, where if a person was on vacation and they replied to a non-critical email or sent any emails they had to put $10 in the Jar. Once enough money was collected it was used to sponsor a treat for the team.

“Work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls—family, health, friends, and integrity—are made of glass. If you drop one of these, it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered.” —Gary Keller, Real Estate Entrepreneur

No one lies at their deathbed and remembers all the long hours they worked. They remember the time they spent with friends and family and if they didn’t spend enough time they regret it. No one regrets not spending more hours at work.

As Dolly Parton said ““Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life.”.

– Suramya

There is a thread going on on Twitter where a scammer who sells courses for 8k USD is giving advice to people on Job hunting. The following screenshot from the same thread was shared on Mastodon and came up in my feed and I honestly was shocked to see this kind of advice being given out.

Just put that you have a degree in your resume. Literally no one checks. Your degree doesn’t apply to your job anyway.

Just by reading this ‘advice’ I immediately know that this person has not ever worked in a large organization or is lying through their teeth. One of the first things that happens after you accept a job offer from a large company is that you go through a background check where everything that you put in the Resume and in your application for the role is verified. Depending on the company they might check X years of your professional work experience (some companies check your entire work history) but all of them verify the education details provided and require you to submit supporting documentation.

If you lied on your resume about having a degree you *will* be caught and in most cases your job offer will be rescinded due to fraud. Yes, Fraud as lying on the resume about your qualifications is considered fraud. You are better off leaving out your education and if your skills are good enough most companies have an exception process that can be utilized for hiring someone who doesn’t have a degree. In other places they sometimes consider your work experience in lieu of a degree.

The following LinkedIn post talks about the consequences some of the people who were caught lying on their resume faced:

3. Marilee Jones

Jones, who was dean of admissions from 1997 to 2007 at the ultra-prestigious Massachusetts Institute of Technology, perpetuated for 28 years the lie that she had three degrees. In reality, she had none. As the head of admissions, ironically, Jones cut the amount of space candidates would have to describe extracurriculars on applications, saying more space would mean more fluff. The school learned through an anonymous tip in 2007 that Jones had puffed up her own credentials, and she was forced to quit. The cost to replace Jones is estimated to be over $100,000

As per Law Depot, lying on your resume can have serious legal consequences. In addition to getting fired (if the lie was caught after you joined) you can also be sued, fined or jailed (or all three).

In a 2019 case outside of North America, an Australian woman was sentenced to 25 months in prison and fined the Australian equivalent of $22,500 USD after she was discovered to have faked references and lied about her education to obtain a high-paying government position.

All said and done, asking someone to lie on their resume is terrible advice and should never be followed. This guy should be ashamed of themselves and stop giving such bad advice.

Regards,

Suramya

I am constantly surprised at how insecure these some of the men are. The following screenshot came up in my Mastodon feed (unfortunately I didn’t save the link to the post, just the image and I can’t find it now) and I was flabbergasted. This is a screenshot from a ‘romance’ guide that is explaining how addressing a man by their name instead of calling them hey you is an example of Micro-cheating…

34 Ways Your Girlfriend Is Micro- Cheating (And Totally Getting Away With It) 29. Addressing a man by his name unexpectedly (e.g. “Hey, Doug” instead of just “Hey”), which breeds a strangely powerful sense of intimacy.

What on earth is wrong with people? Calling folks by their name is basic curtsy. I admit I am bad at it because I have a hard time remembering names but that is not something I am proud of and I try to go the extra mile to ensure that I memorize names.

A quick search gave me the site, and the examples they use in this ‘article’ are beyond idiotic. Search for the text from the example above and you will find it. I am not linking to it because I don’t want to send them more traffic. For example, #25 claims that “giggling“, yes you read that right is an example of Micro-cheating… Some more gems from the site:

9. Letting a guy she interacts with ever so briefly on the bus or in an elevator believe that he’s got a shot for a few precious seconds before getting on with her day.
Just because someone smiled at you doesn’t mean they are interested in dating you.

30. Addressing a man by his full name instead of the nickname he goes by (e.g. “Hello, Douglas”), which is secretly one of the most subtle but impactful ways to flirt.
I don’t like calling folks by their nicknames unless I know them well enough to use it (not talking about examples where Christian is shortened to Chris) and that doesn’t mean I am flirting with them.

34. Sending texts to a guy that are laced with more emojis than she typically uses when communicating with her besties.

These folks need to talk to a psychiatrist because they need help. They are being trained from a young age to only think about women a certain way and to expect every lady they meet to fall at their feet to fulfill their every desire. This is obviously not what happens in the real world and then these folks grow more & more militant and misogynistic causing huge problems for everyone around them. Some of them have actually killed people because they didn’t get what they thought was their right.

– Suramya